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Name a free woman that you know, what you could learn from her? My forehead wrinkles, my eyes look left and right and up, as if looking around my empty room will manifest a free woman in my life from whom I can learn. I don’t know any. I know women who are standing on … Continue reading →

An open letter to the Democratic Party: We’re through.

We have no loyalty to you. We consider ourselves part of your rank only as far as it serves us. It no longer serves us. You have acquiesced to our goals, you have molded yourself to our demands, and changed your foundation to match ours, but it isn’t enough. It’s not even close to enough. … Continue reading →

Freedom to Fail

My son is sitting across from me doing Math-U-See. Doing this for a month and a half very very sporadically and never forcing him to keep going after his interest wanes, we’ve accomplished 88 pages of work that’s 20% of the total coursework for math for his kindergarten year. Currently he is crossing out the … Continue reading →

Our place at the table: Contributor

That word still pings around in my head. Contributor. I’m a contributor, failure; I’m unambitious, lazy, selfish. These, and many others, I have been called for being a stay at home mom. You’d think moms would have this amazing thread tying them together, something so much bigger than us that binds us all in some … Continue reading →

On loving a mirror

My endeavor in this blog has always been to ask hard questions of myself, life, God, others. In that, I have tried my very best to be truthful. There have been times in the past when I was being truthful, but it didn’t feel like it. Some people bring that out of me more than … Continue reading →

Helping our neighbor. When is enough, enough?

We drive a small Hyundai Elantra. When our family is all inside with the car seats and out stuff, we don’t have room for anyone else. On Sunday on our way to church, we passed a man hitchhiking with a giant cross dangling from his neck, and as I realized Gabe was in the car … Continue reading →

Because you can hear it’s cry

If there were a fire and in the fire there was one baby and a crate of a hundred fertilized embryos, which would you save if you could only save one? Meant to be inflammatory, this question has stuck with me for several weeks because it shines a light on the truth. We would save … Continue reading →

Key witness in Guyger case killed

Joshua Brown, Botham Jean’s neighbor and key witness in Amber Guyger’s conviction was shot and killed. He did not offer an impassioned speech of forgiveness. He spoke up for justice and these are the consequences. THIS is the other side that we were talking about. Not fitting into the positive caricature or being grateful, and … Continue reading →

A killing, a conviction, a hug.

Remember how we discussed emotional labor and race? Amber Guyger was sentenced to ten years for walking into the wrong apartment and killing Botham Jean who sat in his own apartment eating ice cream. She did not give him cpr, she did not try to revive or check on him. Botham Jean faced an investigation … Continue reading →

Emotional labor and Race

This is the bulk of emotional labor. We are the managers of our children, husbands and homes. We are the noticers, and we need to educate the rest of our household on their roles and duties. Continue reading →